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Bitter about being single?
GRACE BANDOY

My intense promotion and campaign for staying single and making the world a better place to live in is definitely not because I despise being married or that I dread getting married and having a family.

I don't, it's just that maybe my 'calling' is not the married life at all. And I believe there are millions out there too who feel and maybe think the same way. All of us are not meant to be married and have kids, that's the point of it all. I totally respect those who choose to start their own families and spend their lifetime being a 'family man/woman'.

But with all the millions of people out there who desperately need help, support and aid for their survival, there should be more volunteer individuals who would choose to dedicate their life and time in doing the task of humanitarianism.

Single or not, all of us must do our part in whatever way we can. It will make this world better today and tomorrow, so it will benefit your families too - the future of your kids.

I know a lot of people who are single at the moment, many of them are younger than me, very few are the same as my age (I'm middle aged) and even fewer are those who are older than me.

I just significantly noticed that almost of these single people I know are intent on finding the "One" for them, they're still hopeful and praying hard and sticking millions of candles on churches, performing all sorts of witchcraft and buying all the amulets they can afford to attract the opposite sex and finally find the person they will say "I do" to. Will you people just wait? If your someone special comes, then congratulations. If he/she doesn't then what the hell - it's not the end of the world!

I just think it's crazy and stupid waiting like crazy for the 'One' to arrive. Being single should be considered as an opportunity for one to explore all his capabilities and potentials. There's just no end or limit to what we can do and want to do. We are free and can do anything we want, good or bad hehehe.

We should celebrate our singleness and consider it a blessing not a curse. And what better way to spend our time and money than to share it with the needy. Of course we all have our personal whims and should give in to them sometimes.

But sharing and making other people happy (in whatever way we can) gives us a different kind of 'high'. For me, it's just the most satisfying feeling ever and i think is the ultimate of happiness.

I will have my birthday soon and I am sick and tired of people asking me why I'm still single. I just keep telling them that if I weren't a liberated-thinking individual, I would be inside the convent now. And that I want to become like Mother Theresa except for the religious vow and thing, I mean, it's possible right? The “unholy” sister.

So well, for those who think I'm bitter about married people and stuff, I'm not. Definitely not. But for the still-single individuals out there, think twice about getting married. And try to realize all the other stuff you can do out there - like, well helping others.