Honor thy child on Fathers’ Day
>> Tuesday, June 24, 2014
LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL
Roger D. Sinot
Marriage, according to a Christian book, is
not the pleasure of marital sex, for the end of nature is not pleasure. But
pleasure is an incentive for spouses to embark on the most difficult task of
building a home for the child. The true, the great, the only right of a child
is to have a real family and as always, divine and human laws are united in
making it a holy right. The child is a product of laws who must be reared with
tender hands of love.
Here is a story of a confused child as
related by Santiago Dumlao Jr. Once upon a time, there was a little boy named
Johnny (not the senator). When he was six years old, he and daddy were caught
by a motorcycle cop for over speeding. The daddy handed over his driver license
to the cop with a crisp 50-peso bill. “Ok lang son,” daddy said, “everybody
does it,” and away they drove.
When Johnny was eight, he was with his mother who was driving in a hurry to the
supermarket. And since she could not find any parking space, she parked the car
in a No Parking area. A traffic aide approached but the mother was quick in
giving the traffic aide a 100-peso bill as promised. “I’ll not take long.” And
as the boy looked at his mother questioningly, she said, "Ok lang son,
everybody does it.”
When the boy was 10 years old, a balikbayan favorite aunt came to visit. She
brought expensive electronic products as generous pasalubong – a radio-CD
player for him, TV and DVD player for daddy, and a microwave over for mother.
“You wrote me you wanted all these, the aunt told his mother who said, “These
are just too expensive. How did you get these through customs?” The aunt said,
“Insan, madalilangyan. Kaunting lambing, sabay ngiti, sabay lagay, ayos na!”
When Johnny was 12, he was at the dinner table when his favorite uncle from
Honolulu was presiding over some business discussion on unpaid real estate
taxes over land still jointly owned by relatives. “Alam mo,” he explained with
confidence, “mga tao lamang naman ang mga government collectors mga iyan.
Pagbigyan mo sila at pagbibigyan karin.” Johnny who was in Grade Six understood
a bit but not everything. But before he could inquire, his daddy said, “Ok lang
son, everybody does it.”
The little boy grew to be 18 when his daddy wanted him to enter college in his
own Alma Mater. Johnny was a poor performer in high school, and his grades
would not qualify him for college. But daddy was a close friend in college of
the Dean of Admissions. Daddy talked privately to the Dean, and Johnny was somehow
admitted to college. He was very surprised, but his daddy tapped him on the
shoulder reassuringly. “Ok lang son, everybody does it.”
Before the final exams on his freshman year in college, Johnny was approached
by an upperclassman who was the nephew of his professor. The upperclassman
offered Johnny the test answers for P500. “Ok lang man,” the upperclassman
said. “Everybody does it.”
During the test, Johnny was caught cheating, was kicked out of school and sent
home in disgrace. Johnny’s father was furious and embarrassed. “How could you
do this to your mother and me?” The father said in agony. “You never learned
anything like this at home.” And his mother asked, “Anak, why? Where did we go
wrong?”
Dropping by the supermarket to buy groceries, a young boy knocked at car
window, apparently begging for money. It came to my mind that if I handed him
some coins, he might one day grow up to be dependent on begging or become a
professional beggar. What is worse is that juvenile beggars of today might turn
out to be the best “bad” politicians tomorrow.
As prodigal parents, we radically altered the truth. Above all, we have little
time left to correct our failures. The bitter tragedy is, these victims are our
children and grandchildren. They are flesh of our flesh and bone of our bones.
As a father of two, I admit that life is not rose-tinted or a walk in the park
because the reality is that I am compelled to make rules as a father. Bend the
tree while young. To all fathers out there – “Be the heroes we never were, or
else perish. Happy trails to all fathers.
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